Tuesday, May 16, 2017

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Letter to My One Year Old




For my firstborn's birthday, I decided to gift her with a letter and some money (RM100!) to be put in her bank account. The idea is to write one letter to her every year and to put some money away for her every year which she will eventually receive when she graduates. (I know, I know --- can I really do this for the next 17 years? Time will tell). 

I will be printing the following letter and keeping it away for safekeeping, but here is a digital version just in case any parents would like to be inspired to write their own. It's just basically about her birthday, random anecdotes and it only has one message - that baby, you are so so so so super loved. 


Dear ,

You are exactly one year and one week old today! It has taken mommy a few days to write this letter as we were busy with your birthday which lasted from a Sunday (before your birthday) to the next Sunday (after your birthday). There was just so much love and celebration to go around, because that is the kind of baby girl you are – precious and well loved.

Your birthday was first celebrated with a surprise cream birthday cake from Aunty Khar Ling and Kayson korkor. You loved the cake so much that mommy allowed you to stick your fingers repeatedly into the cream because you are the birthday girl, after all! The cake was from a French bakery and it was berry flavored with chocolate bits and vanilla cream.

Your second birthday celebration was on your actual birthdate, in which Aunty Ivy dressed you up in new shoes, a beautiful new dress and you even wore a red crown. We then had a grand western dinner at The Ship where you had a taste of flambéed  steak (daddy’s), seafood au gratin (mommy’s), sizzling chicken chop (Aunty Ivy’s), seafood chowder soup and corn with fake sharks fin soup; you had a taste of everything except the fresh oysters and daddy’s red wine!

(By the way, your favourite dish was the dinner rolls, you loved it so much that we ordered an extra roll for you). You were also captivated by the live lobster swimming in the tank so let’s visit the restaurant again and have the lobster next time, OK?

We then ended the meal with some hot coffee and banana split for dessert, but you were too full for the ice-cream!

And then your grandparents, aunt, uncle and cousin came down all the way from Penang to celebrate your very first birthday!

The very first thing we did  in the morning was cut your longan coconut jelly cake, which mommy decided would be monkey-themed because you were born in the Year of the Monkey. You were very interested in the cake, so I think you approved of it. I wonder what age you will be when you begin to choose your own birthday cake!  

Then off the 9 of us went to the Farm in the City! This was followed by black burgers for lunch, a two hour playtime at Little Owl Café Publika and ended with daddy treating all of us to Alaskan crabs and cigar chicken at Yamaguchi fish market.

But that was not all!

On the fourth day of your birthday, we went to Aquaria KLCC so you could see sting rays and sharks for the very first time. Mommy was a little terrified of the ugly fishes but because you were so brave and amazed by the fishes, mommy became brave too. Our family loves to eat seafood, after all!

On the fifth day of your birthday, we had glorious dim sum and because you are a big girl now, you could eat a whole egg tart on your own. We also ordered over 20 types of dim sum and you had a taste of everything on the table.

Finally, on the sixth day of your birthday, your grandparents, aunty, uncle and cousin had to depart for Penang but it wasn’t before you were properly and thoroughly smothered in hugs and kisses and cuddles.

And that was how we celebrated your very first birthday.

 At one years old, you haven't grown any teeth yet (although we and the doctor were so SURE that you would be an early teether at five months old). You also can’t walk yet but you’re great at pulling yourself up and toddling along with support. When you say, “mum” it means that you are worried or distressed about something related to sleep/milk/hygiene. Otherwise, it’s always, “da da da da!”

But that’s OK because daddy is so~ in love with you. Daddy’s favourite past time these days is feeding you during mealtimes when aunty allows it. When we are at shopping malls, you and daddy would disappear frequently into shops with toys as he would point out all the cool toys to you and you would tell him which toy you love (dolphin!) and hate (dinosaur!). Sometimes when daddy is carrying you and music is playing, daddy will twirl you around and dance on the spot like there is nothing else more important in the world than the both of you.

When you were six months old, daddy was already feeding you licks of ice-cream because he wanted you to love him the most in this family.

Your favourite method of communicating with us is pointing. You point at everything that you want and need at the moment, and mommy is always saying over and over again to everyone how I can’t believe you’re only one years old; sometimes you think and act like a five year old. You are patient with us, have a cheeky sense of humor and am amazingly cool no matter what happens around you.

You love puffing up your cheeks whenever you see a mirror or camera.

Every time we walk past the fridge, you will point at the magnets and ask to play with them. 

When you were one years old, your very first baby holiday was to Genting Highlands. You were so well behaved and mommy was so, so, so excited to show you the whole world that we started going on plenty of mini road trips to Melaka, Kuantan, Penang (of course!) and Ipoh. I remember being so worried about bringing you on a plane when you were only 5 months old but you didn't even cry once and enjoyed sitting in the airplane. That's right, at five months old our Baby J spent over a week at Taipei! Mommy remembers that the uber uncle liked you so much that he actually gifted you with RM5 on the way to the airport and when you needed hot water for your milk, the nice uncle taxi driver in Taiwan actually stopped by 7-11 to heat up the milk for you. 

When we are out in public, you are so beautiful that we are frequently stopped so people can say hi to you or smile at you. For a while, you used to wave and say hi to everyone in the restaurant, but you are thankfully more bashful now. Now you’ll wait for the person to pass by first and once their backs are turned, you will wave and quietly say, “Hi” to them. 

At home, the only thing you would watch is ‘Dave and Ava’ for a while else you would completely ignore the TV which is great, because mommy often worries that you’re watching too much TV. You also weaned yourself off the pacifier after only one month of using it and you have also stopped drinking from the bottle by the time you were 11 months old. You taught us the signal that you were thirsty by fake coughing (ahem ahem ahem) but we are now learning to hydrate you more often now that you are taking breast milk less frequently.  You are only one years old but you are such a big magical baby girl in so many ways.

I think that you will grow up to be the most serious of us all in this family. But that will be OK because I have seen your sense of humor and your toothless smile lights up in the entire universe.

Daddy says that even though technically you are no longer a baby, we will always call you “baby” even when you’re an old lady.

I remember seeing you for the very first time and I remember that you were so curious about the world that even with the bright lights, you had one eye open. I remember the doctors saying that you were just as beautiful as mommy, but I said, “No, she is even more beautiful”.

And looking at you right now at one years old, I know I’m right.

I remember our first night together, mommy was so excited and happy that I did not sleep until 3am+ when the nurse came in and scolded mommy for not resting well. You were snuggled well in mommy’s arms and it felt like the most natural thing in the world. I am the luckiest mummy in the world because I am your mummy.

I have slept next to you for the past one year and one thing you probably did not realize is that sometimes I bother you while you sleep by stuffing my whole nose into your body, so I can remember your smell, listen to your heartbeat and thank God over and over again for letting you be my baby girl.

Everyday, mummy thanks God for you and daddy.

Happy birthday, baby.

Love,
Mommy



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Wednesday, April 26, 2017

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How to Work From Home as a Mom in Malaysia



People are telling me all~ the time that I'm so lucky that I get to work from home and I never know what to say because this work from home option is actually available to you, you and you - to everybody! Everyone can work from home and it's really easy! Even in Malaysia! 

Let me tell you how. 

First, the caveat - DO NOT SCROLL DOWN WITHOUT READING THIS! 

Being a fulltime stay at home mom and fulltime working mom means that you are ON 24/7. 
i. No more medical leaves 
ii. No more holidays away from work 
iii. No more companionship from colleagues (babies don't count!) 
iv. No more dressing up smart for work
v. No escape from baby (whom I love dearly but seriously. This is not a lifestyle for every parent in the world). You must be prepared to forego sleep, shower or food just to make sure that your baby is comfortable and your work is done on time. 
vi. If you are working from home and working on your own business, it also means that at the back of your mind you will always be worrying about cash flow for the future 
vii. If you are working from home and you're being paid to do so by a business, then you will worry about being redundant over worrying about whether or not you'll get the promotion. Out of sight, out of your boss' mind! 

Of course if you are reading this and you're not a parent, then the following tips will still apply to you and the only caveat you'll need to keep in mind is vi and vii. 

OK, here we go - 

How to Work From Home (And Earn Money)

1. Other People's Business 

You will need: A good reason that will allow your boss to let you work from home. And you should also be damn good at your job for this to be long-term. 

Some small /start-up and MNCs actually allow employees to work from home once a week. Go work for them and you'll enjoy the best of both worlds. 

The chances of you finding one will probably be word of mouth or by interview as these companies seldom advertise this work benefit. Once, I bargained for the firm to allow me to come in just 3 days a week at a lower salary so they could afford me and I also had time to work on other side projects.

I came across this opportunity five times in my ten years working career but turned it down four times because I did not have a child then and was looking to really learn as much as I could from the working environment. I was in the digital marketing field. 


2. Sell stuff online 

You will need: A unique product or service to sell and be business savvy (buy low, sell high; don't underestimate the cost of your time and talent, understanding of marketing and logistics) 

Lately, I buy lots of stuff off the Jobs for Caring Moms Malaysia Facebook Group which is all about empowering moms in Malaysia with the ability to sell anything they can think of. Most moms sell food items or items sourced from overseas. If you are a mom, I highly encourage you to join the group, test the market with an item you think you can profit from and start selling! That Facebook Group also features a job board for moms with plenty of part time jobs (sometimes also stay at home jobs), check it out here. 

Another good alternative is selling stuff on Carousell or start your own Facebook Business Page.  

On the international front, you could also offer digital services on fiverr.com and earn USD! Some typical services you could provide are translation services or design (logo, print, digital, etc) 


3. Be a digital influencer 

You will need: discipline to create content consistently, whether it's on Instagram, by blogging, YouTube or any other social media platform. Knowledge of web design, SEO, digital marketing and networking skills will be a big plus. 

Youtubers with a million subscribers get paid a lot of money! If you're a popular blogger in Malaysia, you'll be able to enjoy lots of free perks like free food, holidays and merchandise. I am unsure about the market rate for blog posts now, but the rates from several years ago was that a famous Malaysian blogger can charge up to RM3,000 per blog post on a product review. 

I hardly blog myself and I have also enjoyed free perks every once in awhile. 

So blog, blog, blog and be sure to promote your blog! If you start up one, email me and I'll be sure to be a silent reader. :) 


4. Be an uber driver

You will need: A driver's license and car younger than 5 years? (I have never done this before)

OK, this isn't really work from home but I heard you can get lots of pocket money, especially if you drive during peak hours! My friend used to do this part time (after working hours) and he would get an additional RM3,000 to RM4,000 every month! Of course I'm not sure if this is after toll and petrol deductions. 


5. Start your own business (what I did) 

You will need: A lot of emergency cash and a type of business that does not require a lot of space, also on retainer - accountant, lawyer, auditor for all the legal stuff 

Be your own boss. Decide to setup an office in your house. Decide your own working hours and how much you want to get paid every month. 


6. Be an investor. 

You will need: A computer, internet and investment knowledge I guess?  (I have never done this before)

You know, shares and stocks and stuff. Live off dividends? (I have no idea, but I have heard of people staying at home and doing investment part time). 



So. 

The point of this blog post is that I expect that most of you would have already known 99% of the things listed here. And yes, all the above sound like a lot of work even though the term "work from home" sounds a lot like not a lot of work is involved.

You will always have to learn something new and improve yourself to stay valuable in the changing market. Someone who knows nothing and plans to stay that way will never make any money staying at home and trying to make a living. But I guess this is the same even for those who are working outside of home. 

Never feel as if you were pre-ordained by life or death to work outside your home forever and ever. You're not! Everything you do is a choice!

We are all self-made but only the successful will admit it. 


If you really want to earn more money or decide to quit your job, there are always alternatives! 

Choose your life, and live it well! Be happy! :) 


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Sunday, April 23, 2017

A mom reviews 13 Reasons Why (On Netflix)


I came across the book version of 13 Reasons Why a few years ago but gave it a complete miss because even though I am an avid fan of Young Adult books, I had absolutely zero interest in reading about teenage suicide and all that angst that went with it. This was especially so after reading John Green's Looking For Alaska. Some people like sad books and some people like happy books, and that's OK. 

And then Netflix decided to produce a whole series based on the book. And then my Twitter feed exploded with lots of young people expressing their love-hate for the show. 

And then I found myself marathoning 3 episodes of the show one night when I had trouble sleeping (ironically baby slept like an angel!) The series was produced very well and the actors are great! 

And then the next day, I watched the fourth episode... fifth episode... and then promptly stopped. Because all the signs were there that the story was only going to get sadder and weirder as it went along. 

I then did some Googling on the storyline. Then I skipped to episode 9 and 11 to watch/briefly glance at the controversial scenes and finally jumped around the last episode to have some closure to the story. 

The following is my review not as a Netflix binger or bookworm, but as a mom with a daughter. 

The long and short of it is that yes, parents, you should absolutely watch 13 Reasons Why with your teenage children because they are going to come across it someday anyway and the messages in this episode can only be used for good if you use it to open conversations with your child.

Does this really happen in school?
Do you know anyone like that?
What would you have done differently? 
What would you do if this happened to you? 
Do you have someone to talk to?
Who are your best friends?
Are people nice to you? 

And so on and so forth. 

I totally completely 100% understand why lots of people hate the show, condemning it for glorifying suicide (it actually teaches kids how to kill themselves the right way with a razor), hints that parents and school teachers are useless and that suicide is the best form of getting revenge. OMG and the rape scenes are seriously... I couldn't even get through those scenes so I just skipped ahead. 

As a mom, I am super super super glad that my children will probably never experience high school education in America because geez, as if getting good grades wasn't stressful enough, girls in America have to worry about being called either a bitch or a slut, getting raped at parties or being shot with a gun (according to Netflix anyway).  I do hope that this is an  exaggeration as children everywhere should have fun at school. 

Growing up in Malaysia, I had a very happy high school life filled with plenty of wholesome activities. I remember spending lots of time watching lots of TV, chatting on IRC and ICQ and cramming for exams. I was also super active, from being in the Chess club to Badminton to Interact to playing the saxophone in the marching band and earning my black belt in Taekwondo! 

But having watched this show reminds me that the childhood that I had might not be the one that our daughter will experience growing up. The world is different now and we have so many more cautionary tales to tell our children, from molesters to kidnappers to bad people who will hurt you or break your heart just for fun.

Of course we intend to provide our daughter with the best environment possible to help her grow into an amazing young woman. 

But at the same time, I know that I also intend to watch plenty of shows like 13 Reasons Why with her because when she gets into trouble and goes looking for help, I don't want her to find her answers with Netflix or the Internet first.


BTW, Thirteen the movie would also be a great movie to watch with your kids when they're teenagers.

(P/S - Kids, just FYI, if you slit your wrists with razors there is a higher likelihood that instead of bleeding out and dying, you could cut a nerve and paralyse your hand forever). 

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Friday, March 17, 2017

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A day in my life with a 10 month old baby



This is the best blog post to read if you're hoping to know about a mom who is barely making it as a "good" parent, wife, housekeeper and business person! Even with just 3 of us and 2 poodles at home, it is a very busy household and despite all the planning, I never really know how the day may end (for example, I am in my PJs and blogging at 8PM on a Friday night, a highly unusual occurence as my MFT - Mommy Freedom Time - usually begins at 10PM+). 

My Work
I am a full time working and stay at home mom. By full time, I mean full time, this is not a 9am-5pm job. I am on call for clients and baby 24/7. But! I love it because being in the recruitment consultancy industry really is a big passion of mine because I get to help people improve their careers and take home salary and at the same time I also get to always be near my baby girl, who is growing up so amazingly fast. 

So let's begin!

Mornings 




I am up by 7am and am damn proud that baby can sleep through the alarm clock ringing. I make sure baby and husband are both still snuggly sleeping before tumbling out of bed, then I'm off to wash up and put on some lipstick! (Yes, I put on simple makeup even if I don't go out - proof that girls don't wear makeup to compete with other girls. It's just pretty to wear makeup! I highly recommed it as a pick-me-up for your day) 

Chores - I turn off night lights, open all windows to let fresh air in, greet the poodles a good morning and get started on breakfast. I also get the coffee machine started so the whole dining area will smell of freshly brewed coffee, my favourite! 



On Monday, I decided that we will have fresh strawberry cake for breakfast!



Some mornings I am more reasonable and cook a hot breakfast (usually with eggs) or like in the photo, I made sandwiches - bacon ham with cheddar cheese and mustard sauce.



If I'm really organised, I also get lunch cooking in the rice cooker or double boiler in the morning.



After breakfast, we bathe the baby.



I am now in charge of the baby while husband goes to work, but I also have leftover chores such as loading the washing machine and wiping down surfaces. So I let the poodles and baby play together for awhile. I also have my red date tea earlier in the day because I tend to get lazy and forget to drink it later on. I drink red date tea for breastmilk production! 



Baby J started playing on her own at 9 months+ and she's getting very good at it, she can sometimes last up to an hour just playing on her own.



Meanwhile, I'm 3 paces away working on my tiny IKEA table and occasionally making gurggling sounds at my baby girl while I work on client fulfillment.



I usually get hungry again at 10am so I have a second breakfast while getting my work done (and also have more coffee). These are my favourite egg tarts from TK Bakery, the shop I highly recommend for baby fullmoon gift packs. Depending on the quality of the fruits at the supermarket, I sometimes also have cut fruits like watermelon and rock melon for tea.  

By 11am, baby is ready for her morning nap.

Afternoons 

Except, some days baby decides that she doesn't want a morning nap, in which case she will sit with me while I get lunch ready at 12pm+.




My little party animal will then pass out in her baby chair while watching her mom move around the kitchen as I cook - get the laundry - check on the poodles - prep dinner.

Hmm! I don't have any photos of lunch, but it's usually something quick like yee mee noodle soup, salad or onigiri. After lunch, baby plays around at the dry kitchen area while I wash up.





I have forcibly stopped myself from buying her anymore toys ever since I discovered that she is perfectly happy playing with tupperware and water. She also spent ten minutes playing with a washed grapefruit today! Tomorrow I will literally give her lemons. 

Once she's done playing with something new, we both go back up to her safe play area for independent playtime while mommy goes back to work. 



I am hungry by 2-3pm! So I have an early teatime while I get more work done. Are you guys interested in knowing how I do not gain weight even though I ate the whole strawberry cake by myself? Because I'm the only dessert fairy at home, I have been known to eat 8 pcs of krispy kreme donuts or finish the whole box of Hokkaido cheese tarts by myself without putting on weight. But having said that, I am not model skinny either, which is why I am unsure of whether or not I should teach you my no-exercise, no-diet, no-supplement method. (>_<) 



We then get back to work and by 4pm, baby is ready for her second nap. These days she likes hunting for the baby wipes and pulling out the wet tissue all over the bed; I usually let her pull out a few and then quietly keep the wipes away when she's distracted.

Evening

We have dinner at around 5pm because I like to keep ourselves free for mommy-daddy time after 6pm! To achieve this I usually prep dinner's ingredients ahead during lunch time. 



Lasagne is one of my favourites because you can do everything beforehand and just pop the lasagne into the oven to bake an hour before dinner.



I usually do fusion Western/Italian one day, then the next day I'll do something Chinese with steamed rice, kailan/broccoli and a meat dish.



I try to stuff us full so we don't get hungry at 10pm. Sometimes we have ice-cream to go with a hot beverage and then daddy watches baby while I go around doing house chores (vacuum, turning on the night lights, feeding the poodles, wiping down surfaces, boiling hot water, boiling my red date tea). 

Night time 

If we've been in the house the whole day, we end the day by taking baby out for a walk at the nearby playground outside for fresh air and new scenery. It's also time for me and hubby to sneakily date each other while we walk. When we get home, baby has her second bath before she's dressed in her PJs. 

At around 8-9pm baby is ready for bed.



Baby sleeps with style.



She's usually fussy during the first few hours of her sleep cycle so I hang around on the bed watching kdrama while baby sleeps. OMG I loved Goblin and Descendents of the Sun so much!



Because I heard Song Joong Ki wears a mask everyday, I also wear a facial mask for 20 minutes everyday while I lounge on the bed with baby. Aunty says my skin looks amazing, so it must work! There are also days when I'm too tired to do anything, let alone wear a mask. Sometimes my husband walks in to find me fast asleep next to baby and it's not even 10pm. (^_^); We have slept through the whole night while leaving all the lights and air-conditioning turned on in the whole house due to exhaustion! 



Sometimes we go out in the evenings and by the time we get home, baby is too exhausted to change into her PJs so we just let her sleep comfortably.



Some days even the baby car seat joins us in bed. I let it hang around our bedroom for a few days until we need to go somewhere with baby in the car.

Once baby is asleep - Mommy Freedom Time!

Hubby and I meet up to catch up on our day and review our weekly calendar on the board. Our days are filled with random meetings, lunches, dinners and family obligations so it's always good to have it up on a board to be discussed every night. 

I try to avoid catching up on work at this hour but if there is something urgent to catch up on, I do it quickly and accurately while nursing a cup of chinese tea! 

Otherwise I will be watching IFLIX/Netflix with hubby while folding laundry and snuggling up to the love of my life. Hubby will then inevitably fall asleep 10 minutes into the second episode of a TV show, I will wake him up and then we will all tuck into bed for the night.


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Friday, March 3, 2017

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10 Steps: How to sell your car (second hand) in Malaysia

Our family is a one car household.

... which is pretty rare in Malaysia! When we married, we had two cars for three years but somehow because of our lifestyle, personality and sticky habits towards each other, we ended up only using one car (even when both of us switched jobs twice), we would still car pool to work together and for everything else, there was Uber, Grab Car and the good ol' tumpang a friend's car home for special occasions. 

My very first car ... I miss it sometimes! 

So this is a step-by-step on how we sold off our cars (because we wanted to upgrade our current car and because the other one was literally collecting dust, literally. I will always remember it costs RM200 to replace a car battery because that's how often we had to buy a new one just to restart the spare car every month or two). 

Note: I think normally you trade in your current car at the dealer if you're planning on getting a new car? But that wasn't an option for us as the car was in our parent's names. 

Step 1 - Prepare these 3 items- Car registration card, insurance policy and owner's thumb print. You need this trinity to sell your car in Malaysia. 

Step 2 - Take photos of your car and take note of the mileage to get an estimated market price.

You now have two options! If you would like the shortcut version, go to Step 6, otherwise read on - 

Step 3 - Log onto carlist.my and input your car's details in the Search Filter on the left. You will now know the market price of your car. 


Step 4 - Choose your Dealer. Look for listings with this symbol to contact a Dealer. I used this backward method to find my car salesman because I wanted someone who sold my type of cars and who would give me a fair price for it. 

Step 5 - Choose lots of Dealers! I saved ten numbers into my phone and Whatsapp'd all of them the details of my car for a quotation. 



Step 6 - If you would like to skip the above steps, here's the number of the sales guy I sold my car to and I have to say he's pretty chill. Ricky's number is: +6011-18705692​⁠​. The company is pretty large and is located at Ampang. Do note that although I dealt with this company, they might not offer you the best price for your car, so it's always good to get 2-3 price offers

Step 7 - So now that you have your secondhand car dealer's number, it's time to talk to him! Here's the message I sent via Whatsapp - 


Step 8 - They will ask you for your asking price. If you have one, just let them know. I was upfront that I had no idea what the selling price was. This is why it's good to contact a couple of dealers - after getting 4-5 replies, I could talk to the best person with the best price.

** Note: at this point if you are extra cautious like us, you can consider driving to the car dealership's office first to see if the business is dodgy. In our case, we liked that the Performance Motor Trading's dealership was large and prosperous looking.

We even took photos of the dealership and sent it to our parents just in case we got conned into giving our cars away for free
Step 9 - You are almost done! Set an appointment to have the car appraised at the shop and bring along your documents listed in Step 1 and your extra car keys (if you still have them). If you are not the listed car owner in the registration card, bring the owner with you as well! 

Step 10 - You will be given a cheque for your car (do note that the cheque will only be made out to the name printed in the car's registration card). Cash your cheque in and treat yourself to a nice cup of coffee.  


Enjoy going home to an empty car lot, that's one less thing you need to be responsible for! 


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Disclaimer 

This is a non-sponsored post, I am not affiliated with carlist.my or Performance Motor Trading. 

This post was created to help people like us who had no idea how to go about selling a car that was handed down to us from our parents.  Hope it'll be useful to you! :) 


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Tuesday, February 28, 2017

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Is being a mom lonely?


Despite having friends with similar aged babies, I find myself preferring to do other things than converse with them on a daily basis, mostly because I have nothing to complain about (a) baby is developing very well (b) plenty of breastmilk (c) my husband is amazing, and he is an even more amazing father who bathes and plays with his baby everyday (d) I'm finally losing weight (e) the sky is so blue today (f) I am lucky enough to work from home (g) so I can't even complain about saying goodbye to my kid every morning before rushing off to work. LIFE IS GREAT and yes (h) my in laws adore our baby plenty and (i) we've never had a fight over how to raise the baby with either set of parents! 

I feel like I've won the lottery in life because of God's billion blessings so even though I look very dazed and confused most of the time, I am so so so super grateful and happy from the top of my head to the tip of my toes. 2 days ago, I had a social outing and found old soiled diapers in my Marc Jacobs bag from the week before! Hehe. OK so I don't have everything figured out. Still. I am happy! 


While I am timid about talking to other moms (because they are sure to ask about what challenges I am facing), I am also curious about how everyone goes about their life while also raising their baby! And for that I am grateful to a random IKEA posting on Facebook which led me to discover Estella Goh - I have been reading all her posts the entire day! I also occasionally check up on Cheeserland because Baby J and her baby Sakura are same aged babies! It will be super neat if they meet up and be friends one day (OK, it would be weird too. But cool weird).

So I thought I would recommend these two blogs if you are a mom like me and are curious to read about other moms as well. Do let me know if you have other favourite blogs you like to read about! I was so desperately curious yesterday that I actually tried Googling it but not many blogs intrigued me. If you're looking for something funny, exaggerated (hopefully) and swear-filled to read, I recommend Hurrah For Gin too.

Reading about other moms also inspired me to log into Blogger again. I'd previously thought of my blog as a free knowledge sharing centre - kind of my contribution to the Internet, you know? So it didn't matter that I only did 4 postings a year, because each posting would matter in terms of quality and usefulness. 

But lately I think it wouldn't be so bad to go back to using this space as a diary again so that when Baby J's all grown up, she'll hopefully come across this digital piece of me and know that she was and always will be my everything. 





She will be turning ten months old in 9 days! As I am typing this, she is fast asleep next to me smelling like strawberries and warmth. Today without warning she decided that she could play on her own in her play area all on her own and I couldn't help but be proud of her first signs of independence. Soon she will be asking for a her own car and moving off to college! 

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